Dear ANONYMOUS,
Hello again.i am quite flattered to know that you just came across my blog by accident. i don't have much visitors that i know who take time to check and read on my posts, much more leave comments. so i honestly appreciate your presence here. at least now i have someone to exchange my views with and make this blog interactive in a way.
everybody is entitled to his own views so it is but proper to respect yours. but may i just reiterate that the entry was not to lure somebody back. i don't think i would want somebody back just because of guilt cos that would fall into forcing love my way and honestly that's not what i believe in. besides, there is a slim chance that that somebody will come across my blog cos i suppose he would no longer be interested to check in. he stopped talking, i stopped talking, we stopped talking for some time now.
in a relationship, it's not always hearts and flowers. both happiness and sadness come in handy. and i have learned to accept that. heartaches come with the package. if you read my entry again, i did not mention even a single complaint regarding my or should i say, our situation. cos i did all those things by choice. nobody forced me, he didn't ask me to. they were all done out of love. so i don't think i have the right to slap it all on his face and ask for a refund or whatsoever. they are all results of my decision to give my love the best way i can.
i don't think some people would appreciate what people like me do for love. some may say it is a selfless act, but some will also think it is a selfish display of love. life works that way, we can't please everybody. and we should never forget that one can never fully understand somebody until he climbs under the other person's skin and be him. the fact is, everything is in a case to case basis. you can never judge a thing just because you yourself has experienced it or has seen it happen to someone close to you before. it all depends on the situation, the persons involved and the characteristics they have. some things will work for some and not for others. some will take it easy, some will not. some will choose to leave, some will stay. some will live in hatred, some will love more. some will go on begging for love while some will learn to let go and love in silence. life works that way, different for every person.
i think you were referring to this line when you said you thought i was taking the role of a pitiful victim.
"when he finally asks you to stop,
but you don't and decide to still hang on and hold on to your hope..
that's LOVE ON THE THIRD DEGREE."
i think you got it all mixed up here. i was not talking about someone who didn't stop even if she was asked to and tried cling on to save the relationship. that would not be love on the third degree if we put it that way. i just wanted to point out that love on the third degree means still loving someone even if he already asked you to stop, loving not forcing. that's letting go of the person but hanging on to your love, even from afar. it is honestly clear to me that one can never make another person love her if that person really won't. and love on the third degree understands that even more. i would like to believe that's not selling myself short. so i would like to know how you define it then.
different people see things differently in different angles. your views and my views maybe different but i'm sure we both have our own reasons for thinking so. and that goes to your friend too. she may not see what you are seeing but please do not forget that it works for her too. letting go and moving on are two different things. the first would be easier to learn than the second. so one will have to learn to let go of the person first before anything else. the amount of pain will depend on how much care one has towards the other. if it hurts much cos one has loved much then let it bleed. one should never attempt to kill it cos trust me, it would only be painful to the core. besides, i believe love will heal all wounds not time. it would be a struggle and sometimes, it is absolutely painful to watch. believe me, the pain that the other persons see is not even half as the pain felt by the person struggling. some are just lucky enough to display a much stronger personality. smiling though in pain so as not to affect the people around. what we feel is quite contagious so sometimes one will choose to deal with things alone and instead leave things between the parties involved.
thank you for dropping by and i hope to hear from you again.
xxx,
bLack aNgeL
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