Saturday, March 7, 2015

7 Things I Learned From Not Having Facebook For 10 Days


Sometimes we have those moments where we just want to disconnect ourselves with the world for no particular reason but just the mere want to do it. I have done this more than a couple times... taking flights somewhere, dining wherever, running, one bottle sessions, just whatever things I could possibly do alone. I just love that warm feeling it gives me and the realizations that come with it.

Recently, when i came back from my short trip to Turkey i got really sick. It was my first time to go to the doctor here and first ever to be given a 2-day sick leave certificate. Not being well lasted for days or should i say weeks. Plus a lot of things were literally stressing me out. Eventually, i decided to do a little break. I deactivated my facebook account hoping i could take a little rest and somewhat cut away from the temptation of staying late chatting, and snooping on somebody else's wall.

I guess it did me good. And here are the reasons.



7 Things I Learned From Not Having Facebook For 10 Days
  1. You will know who actually cares when you suddenly go MIA. Let's admit it! We have hundreds (even thousands) of facebook friends running from acquaintances, family, travel friends, not so close and close friends to bffs. A number of them will not check your account on regular basis. They will just be reminded of your existence when you change your profile picture and make posts which basically show in their new feeds. Thus, only a small percent will try to look for you when they figure it out that you are missing. A lot will not even notice.
  2. It is too hard to talk to people you want to talk to especially when the only means you have is facebook messenger. Not all of your friends have your Whatsapp, Viber, Skype or even your new mobile number (well, communicating thru sms and phone calls every now and then would be very expensive if you are staying in a different country). Now here's how facebook should really work, connecting people. That's something to be thankful for.
  3. Life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what everybody else is doing. Ugly truth, 90% of our time on facebook is technically for checking other people's lives. We spend most of our time checking on our newsfeeds. New photos, videos, status updates of friends  take much of our time. Sometimes, we get too affected of posts we see that our emotions are greatly affected which greatly changes our mood for the rest of the day. Sometimes we should not be affected but we do.
  4. Not posting about your personal life means no complaints later on how people should mind their own business. Your thing is your thing. But if you post it on facebook, it becomes everybody's thing. Should i say more?
  5. What you don't know won't hurt you. Oh well, my friends already know me with that line. It's nothing new. But when you feel you are too good in finding things,  it's just too hard to stop your FBI skills from working sometimes. You get those instincts that would get you clicking and going. But when you finally hit the jackpot, you would wish you didn't even log in in the first place. No facebooking, no checking, no hurting. Hahaha   
  6. You can make your life as functional as you make it appear on facebook. Let's face the fact that while some people are washing their dirty linens in public, some will try to paint more colors into theirs. Some will get jealous on how happy other people's lives are and begin to compare it with theirs and eventually become inferior. Please be warned, not all the posts you see mirror reality. 
  7. Be like a ninja. It is good to keep things in private. Everybody doesn't have to know everything you are doing. Leave no traces. Check but don't post. It makes life less complicated. I know a lot of people doing this, and i envy them much. 

So everything said. I always choose the option "It's temporary. I will be back." when deactivating. I need facebook for sure. But sometimes you have to reset the button to to keep it working well and serve it's purpose.  Let's see then when the next deactivation is due. Haha


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